Who wants a slice of PIE?
Have you ever known someone that was completely unselfish in every way? As I sit here and think about the true meaning of "selfishness" I can't say that I have ever known another human being that was or is 100% selfLESS. Think about it.....I believe it is in everyone's nature, but some are more selfish than others. Have you ever been accused of being selfish and you wonder how that person could possibly think that of you? I think everyone could use a little slice of humble pie, present company included.
A LA MODE anyone?
Definition of SELFISH
1: concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself : seeking or concentrating on one's own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others
Well I don't know about you but I have definitely been guilty of this a time or two or three. Being selfless all the time is a very difficult thing to accomplish. I am not a perfect person and as such I am guilty of doing things that may appear to be or simply are selfish. I think at the end of the day it is what you are really striving for that matters most. It is having the ability to recognize that you have done something selfish and making a conscious effort to do better. It is having a strong desire to do the right thing and act selflessly towards others knowing you are not perfect and you will falter.
~ William E. Gladstone
The inspiration for this blog came when I was accused of acting selfishly. The analyzing person that I am, I asked myself....well, did you? Although the context of the accusation is not what I believe I was selfish about, I would say that according to the definition above....yes, I acted selfishly. This is an example of how we as human beings go about life and do our best to get through. We all have different ways of managing stress and disappointment and my outlet, though unintended, was technically selfish. Now, I could go into all of the reasons why I think it isn't selfish but according to the definition....I am
Epic FAIL
Well like I said before, nobody is perfect. I shall get back on the wagon and keep on a trying. That's all I can do right? I do take comfort in my belief that I am not a "selfish" person by nature. A truly selfish person would never consider the possibility that they are selfish. A selfish person also ends up losing loved ones and friends because no matter how charming or interesting a selfish person may be, a relationship with a selfish person is hard to maintain.
"Selfishness is not living as ONE wishes to live. It is asking OTHERS to live as one wishes to live." ~ Oscar Wilde
Random thought...
Did you ever wonder if the person calling another person selfish is being selfish for calling that person selfish? When does the selfish cycle end?
And the period at the end of the sentence?
There are going to be times in our life when you fail at being SELFLESS, but to truly be a selfless person means having the desire to think and act selflessly and recognize when we have failed. If you find yourself being accused of being selfish, the best thing to do is take a moment and ask yourself "are you?". If the answer is yes and you have a desire to do better, then set your mind to it. Try to develop empathy for people and other living creatures. Look for ways to help; anticipate the needs of others. Pay attention to the people in your life, try to find out what their needs are and put those first. Think about the other person's personality and do things, buy gifts etc with that in mind and not your own preferences. REMEMBER BIRTHDAYS! Be honest, loyal, on-time and don't take things people say or do personally. Have a slice of that humble pie and do your best!
Until next time.....Lay it out and ROCK IT!
Nichole
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